All Because of Your Upbringing

Lydia Whitmore stood by her kitchen window, watching her grandson Max lob stones at the neighbour’s cat. The boy was only seven, but there was a simmering anger in his movements that unsettled her.

“Max, stop that this instant!” she called, pushing open the sash window.

Max didn’t even glance back. He just picked up a bigger stone and hurled it again. The cat yowled and darted behind the garages.

Lydia sighed and went to fetch her cardigan. She’d have to go down and talk to him, though she knew it’d do little good. Max never listened—he’d either snap back or storm off home to complain to his mum.

In the stairwell, she nearly collided with her neighbour, Gloria Parker.

“Lydia, have you seen what your grandson’s up to?” Gloria huffed. “Chasing poor Marmalade again!”

“I saw, Gloria. I’ll have a word with him.”

“Fat lot of good that’ll do! You ought to talk to Alice instead. This is all her doing—or rather, her not doing.”

Lydia said nothing. She wasn’t in the mood for an argument, but she couldn’t agree either. Alice was her daughter, and no matter how strained things got between them, she’d always defend her.

Out in the courtyard, Max had moved on to a new hobby—plucking wings off flies trapped in a jam jar.

“Max, what on earth are you doing?” Lydia perched beside him on the bench.

“Experimenting,” he muttered, not looking up.

“Experimenting how?”

“Seeing how they manage without wings.”

“And why’s that important?”

Max shrugged. “Dunno. Just is.”

Lydia gently took the jar from him. “Flies are living creatures too, love. It hurts them, you know.”

“So? They’re pests.”

“Max, you can’t go hurting things just because you don’t like them.”

The boy blinked at her as if she’d started speaking in hieroglyphics.

“Mum says if someone’s weaker, you don’t have to be scared of ’em.”

Lydia’s chest tightened. Was Alice really teaching him that?

“Your mum says a lot of things, but that doesn’t make them right. Strong people protect the weak, not bully them.”

“Sounds daft,” Max scoffed, scrambling off to the swings.

That evening, Lydia steeled herself to speak to Alice. Her daughter arrived at eight, frazzled from work and already scowling.

“Did you feed him at least?” she asked, bypassing hello.

“Of course I did. Alice, we need to talk.”

“About what?” She fiddled impatiently with her handbag strap.

“About Max. His behaviour.”

Alice rolled her eyes. “Oh, not this again. Mum, he’s seven! All kids muck about at that age.”

“This isn’t mucking about, Alice. He’s tormenting animals, backchatting adults, refusing to listen.”

“And what’s your brilliant solution? Lock him in his room?”

“I’m suggesting you actually parent him. Teach him right from wrong.”

Alice snorted. “Times have changed, Mum. The world’s tough now. I won’t have my son growing up a pushover.”

“There’s a difference between strength and cruelty!”

“What difference? Point is—don’t let anyone walk over you.”

Lydia studied her daughter’s face and barely recognised her. Where was the kind-hearted girl she’d raised? When had Alice become so hard?

“Max, we’re leaving!” Alice barked toward the playground.

The boy trudged over. “Nan, can I come tomorrow?”

“Any time, sweetheart.”

Alice grabbed his hand and marched off. At the gate, she turned back.

“Mum, don’t fill his head with fairy tales about kindness. The world doesn’t work like that.”

After they left, Lydia sat on the bench a long while, wondering where she’d gone wrong. Alice had been an ordinary child—no better, no worse. She’d scraped through school but tried her best. Helped at home, never cheeky. What had happened?

The next day, Max arrived in a foul mood, a scratch on his cheek.

“What happened?” Lydia asked.

“Tom’s a git,” he grumbled.

“Why’d he scratch you?”

“Dunno. Just did.”

Lydia wasn’t buying it. Tom was a quiet boy from down the road—she knew him and his parents well.

“Max, truth now. What did you do to Tom?”

“Nothing much,” he mumbled, avoiding her eyes. “Just took his sweets.”

“Took? Or nicked?”

“…Nicked. But I didn’t hit him!”

“And he didn’t want to share?”

“No. Tightwad.”

Lydia sighed. “Max, you can’t just take what isn’t yours. If you want sweets, ask or buy your own.”

“Why bother? He’s weaker, so I’m stronger. Mum says the strong make the rules.”

“Mum’s wrong.”

Max gaped. “Mum’s never wrong. She’s grown up.”

“Grown-ups mess up too, love. Even your mum.”

The boy chewed this over. “If Mum’s wrong, who’s right?”

“People who don’t pick on others, who help, who tell the truth.”

“So you’re right, and Mum’s not?”

Lydia hesitated. She didn’t want to turn him against Alice, but silence wasn’t helping.

“I try to be. But mostly, you’ve got to listen to your conscience. It’ll tell you what’s proper.”

“What’s a conscience?”

“The little voice inside that says what’s good or bad. When you pinched Tom’s sweets, did it say anything?”

Max frowned. “Yeah. But Mum says that’s rubbish.”

“What do you think?”

“Dunno,” he admitted.

So Lydia told him a story about a kind giant who protected the weak instead of bullying them. Max listened, asked questions. For the first time, he seemed genuinely interested.

Later, they went outside where kids were playing—including Tom, who ducked behind his mum at the sight of Max.

“Max,” Lydia murmured, “how about saying sorry to Tom?”

He glanced at her, then at Tom. “Why?”

“Because you hurt him.”

“But he’s weaker.”

“Exactly why you should.”

Max chewed his lip, then shuffled over. “Sorry about your sweets,” he muttered.

Tom blinked. “S’alright.”

“Wanna play?”

“Yeah.”

The boys scampered off to the sandpit. Lydia felt something unclench in her chest.

That evening, Alice arrived in even worse spirits than usual.

“Mum, what nonsense have you been filling Max’s head with?” she snapped the second she stepped in.

“Pardon?”

“Tom’s mum rang. Said Max apologised. For taking sweets, of all things!”

“For stealing them.”

“So what? Kids nick stuff all the time. You’re turning him into a doormat!”

“Alice, I’m teaching him decency.”

“Decency?” She gave a sharp laugh. “Wake up, Mum. Decency’s a luxury we can’t afford.”

“Why not?”

“Because the world’s brutal! The weak get crushed. If you don’t fight, you lose!”

Lydia studied her daughter—the exhaustion, the bitterness.

“Alice, love, what’s happened to you? Who hurt you this badly?”

Alice turned to the window. “No one. Life did.”

“Taught you what?”

“That kindness is weakness. That good people get used. That you’ve got to look out for yourself.”

“And you want Max to live like that?”

“I want him to survive.”

Lydia pulled her into a hug. Alice stiffened, then suddenly sobbed.

“I’m so tired, Mum… Tired of fighting, of proving I’m worth anything. My boss belittles me, colleagues stab me in the back. Max’s dad left when I got pregnant. Friends vanished when I needed help.”

“And you decided everyone’s rotten?”

“Aren’t they?”

“No, darling. Good people exist—you just have to let yourself see them.”

Alice wiped her eyes. “I don’t want Max learning the hard way like I did. Better tough than sorry.”

“Or—hear me out—kind but not naïve. Helpful but not a mug.”

“How?”

“Teach him to read people. That kindness isn’t weakness—it’s strength. That real men stand up for themselves without kicking others down.”

Alice went quiet.

“You really think that’s possible?”

“Look at Max today. He apologised to Tom, made a friend. Did that make him weaker?”

“No. Tom’d probably take

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