My wife’s parents think they can influence other people with their advice, and that’s perfectly normal. But I’m not sure what to do about their behavior.

During our dating relationship, I have become aware of how much her parents like to assist their children in making decisions. They constantly reinvent everything they do.

The mother’s side of the family gave instructive instructions, beginning with the words, “Honey, you are doing everything wrong!” Every single time.

Two things bothered my wife and me: her parents’ treatment of her and the fact that she could not pass by without sharing what she knew, as all knowledge comes from personal experience. Therefore, all the information she had was not always good and accurate, but she could not let it remain unshared.

I was concerned about this, and I was afraid that my mother-in-law would constantly interfere with our family life with her advice because no matter how many times Linda asked her not to do it, her mother was not even willing to listen to what Linda did want her to do.

After we married, I realized that my fears had come true.

A large house was purchased outside the city limits, and we started rearranging it as soon as we moved in. I remember once when we were choosing a color for the living room walls. My mother-in-law asked if she could come with us to help us select a color for the walls. The only thing that I heard as I walked through the rows and looked at the different colors and shades of paint, I was told that it would be better if we used wallpaper instead.

She repeatedly said, “I can’t believe how shabby the paint looks, but the wallpaper looks better.”

When we were walking through the store, I suggested my wife immediately heads to the sofa department to look at the sofa for the living room. She agreed to do. I’ve heard that the options we’re considering do not suit my mother-in-law and that they wouldn’t work well for the living room.

When my mother-in-law came to our house when the armoire for the living room was brought into the apartment, she told the porters that it should not be delivered so that they would take it back, as what we selected was not precisely what she wanted. I endured all these words up until the moment that my mother-in-law did not come to our house. That was when the chest of drawers for the living room was brought into the house without telling the porters.

My anger and surprise knew no bounds because why does my wife’s mother allow herself such arbitrariness? This is our house, not hers, and she should not be in charge here. My vehement displeasure was immediately expressed to her, which greatly offended her.

The next day, my father-in-law stood in our house and asked why we insulted his wife because she wanted to support us and do what she could to help us.

In addition, my father-in-law told me he wouldn’t choose this chest of drawers because it does not look very classy.

The situation that I feared took place in the end. My wife’s parents are trying to manage the process and giving their instructions, which we do not need. I don’t know what to do in this case. I cannot express my anger more rudely for fear of offending them. My wife does not want to upset her parents, but I no longer have the strength to deal with it all.

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My wife’s parents think they can influence other people with their advice, and that’s perfectly normal. But I’m not sure what to do about their behavior.