Parents want to help us, but we don’t want to!

My wife and I have our small house in the suburbs.

We spent a great deal of effort and money on repairs to get the house in order and do everything we imagined.

We are happy that it worked, and now we can enjoy a quiet existence without having to make repairs, no matter the cost.

Both of our parents live in the city, not far from us. They often wish to assist us with our work since they live close to us. They indeed had a great deal of free time and energy during their retirement to help us.

Initially, we were always happy to see them whenever they visited us. At the time, we thought it would be an excellent way for us to relax and unwind.

It is, however, essential to note that there were some subtle differences between us. We soon realized that we did not have enough privacy for ourselves after spending time together. As much as we desired to be able to relax psychologically around our parents, I found that I could not do so.

My spouse and I work during the week, and our children attend school. Having worked hard during the week, I wanted to spend the weekend in peace without dealing with unnecessary stress. I just wanted to relax.

We felt that it was essential for us to do so.

We did not want a farm and had no interest in working the land. We did not have a large garden of fruit trees. We didn’t need more than a few fruit trees and a raspberry patch.

Having realized that we would not become zealous farmers if we moved to the village, we did not care about working the land. Our priority was to have a quiet life in our own spacious house.

Parents did not understand us. As a result, they frequently asked us, “Why didn’t you want to plant at least a small garden for yourselves?”

Because of that, we rarely invited them to spend time in nature in our house.

It was hard to please everyone and take care of ourselves at the same time.

So far, my wife and I couldn’t figure it out.

Have you ever encountered a similar situation? How did you handle it? Did this happen to someone you know? Would a compromise be possible for everyone’s sake?

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Parents want to help us, but we don’t want to!