Samantha is my wife’s older sister. She met a guy who proposed to her a few months after getting married. They’re now planning their wedding, which will be in two weeks.
Samantha and I get along pretty well. Our relationship isn’t exactly warm, but we haven’t fought. The invitation to Samantha’s wedding only included my wife’s name. I was not invited to the wedding.
Alice, my wife, suggested she call her sister and ask. It may have been a mistake, but I stopped her. It was never on my list to attend a relative’s wedding; why would I? They don’t want me there. So, I just rolled with it.
She wasn’t happy. Since she didn’t have a driver’s license, my wife couldn’t make it to the wedding in the suburbs because it was too far and there was no public transportation. She didn’t want to walk there by herself. But she wasn’t sure what to do.
Even if she shows up at a wedding, she will sit there. She won’t have anyone to dance with, and getting it is tricky. Yet she didn’t want to take me there because she didn’t want to offend her sister on such an important day. Therefore, I told her I would take her there and pick her up later. It’s no big deal for me. I couldn’t leave my wife in that situation.
Alice’s parents didn’t like this option when they heard about it, “If Samantha doesn’t want to see me, you shouldn’t do that.”
Oh well. It would have been helpful if her parents had suggested something, but they did not clarify the situation.
Our nerves got tense over this wedding situation. We’ve already argued a lot. It took me a long time to convince my wife to come to the wedding. I didn’t want her to scold me for not attending her sister’s wedding.
Alice found out that there wasn’t a seat for her at the wedding in the restaurant. Samantha’s friend, Nancy, said her sister didn’t expect my wife to show up. They will be adding a chair to accommodate my wife if she attends. Alice was offended by this news. Alice said that she was unlikely to visit them in the future, regardless.
The next day, she persuaded me to send them a small gift and a bouquet in a symbolic gesture of congratulations. Unfortunately, we will no longer be communicating with Samantha and her husband. We do not see the point in keeping in touch. The problem is that they don’t want to see us, and we do not want to see them.
How do you feel about this? Would you say it’s a good idea?