I brought my daughter to live with me after my wife left, but she has grown up, and I want to provide her with a decent education. Our daughter wants to become a dentist, and since education is expensive, I tried to split the expense with my wife since she’s also her daughter. When my wife’s young boyfriend, who lives off her money, learned about that, he told her not to talk to me.
A year ago, my wife began spending a lot of time with a young man. A few weeks later, she told me she no longer loved me and wanted to start a family with him. Our marriage seemed secure for years, with nothing that could ruin it. It turned out I was wearing pink glasses. We have a daughter who is 18 and has just finished high school. In addition to being distressed and hurt, both my daughter and I decided to move into a small one-room apartment that my parents left for my sister and me. After a few days, I learned that her boyfriend had moved in with her in our three-room apartment.
Five years ago, my sister got married and moved with her husband to another state. We used to share the money from renting our parents’ apartment equally with my sister. My daughter and I are pretty comfortable here, but for me, my daughter’s dream is far more meaningful than my comfort. She has always dreamed of becoming a dentist. I can see that she is excited when she speaks about it. I explained to my sister that her niece is so frustrated because of her mother’s rash action that she cannot focus on the Dental Admission Test (DAT). Then, I suggested that we sell the apartment and move to a different city so that my daughter could concentrate on her studies without distractions. Despite being on my side, my sister expects our inheritance to be divided fairly and that we should share the money equally.
In the end, I negotiated with my wife. I persuaded her to sell our apartment, buy us a separate one-bedroom apartment, and use the rest of the money for our daughter’s education. I had to convince her for almost a week while her boyfriend was out at sea with friends. We had hoped that we would have time to settle all the paperwork and then sell the apartment. She didn’t take my advice because her boyfriend came back and used it against me, saying I was trying to rip her off and steal the money.
The result, my wife said, is that our daughter could have attended another university. She stated that many people work at jobs they dislike and that nothing terrible has ever happened. As long as her boyfriend is with her, our daughter’s needs don’t matter to her. Although my daughter is very understanding, she doesn’t want to hear about other careers.
The cost of her education will not be covered even after selling the car and receiving half the money from my parents’ apartment. And even before that, I will risk becoming homeless. We live in a small apartment with poor living conditions, and I want to ensure a happy future for my child. I am at a loss as to how I should proceed.