Im living with a man who insists money is low energy.
Weve been together for nearly two years and until three months ago, life was fairly normal. He had a job, contributed, kept to a routine. Then, one evening, he came home claiming hed had a spiritual awakening and that his job no longer aligned with his purpose. The very next week, he quit.
At first, I supported him. He told me he needed space to find himself, that he was exhausted by the system and wanted to live from consciousness. I carried on as alwaysup early, rushing out the door, coming home late and knackered. He stayed in meditating, watching life coaching videos, burning incense. He said he was healing.
Two weeks in and he still hadnt chipped in for the rent. When I brought it up, he told me not to worry; the Universe would always provide. Turned out, I was the Universe. I started covering food, bills, transporteverything. He ate, used the flat, the Wi-Fi, the water, the electricity, but declared he didnt believe in billssaid it was living in fear.
One day I came home utterly shattered, only to find him lying down, listening to an audio on abundance. I told him we needed a serious talk about finances. He replied that I was manifesting scarcity, that my stress was drawing in bad vibes and that I should just let go of control. That was it for me. I told him this wasnt controlit was responsibility. He gave me this pitying look and said I still hadnt woken up.
He promised hed soon be earning from his wisdomoffering coaching sessions, consultations, something or other. Days kept ticking by and nothing happened. The only thing that changed was that he started correcting everything I didhow I spoke, thought, reacted. If I mentioned I was tired, hed say I was vibrating at a low level. If I came home in a foul mood, apparently I was blocked emotionally.
There was one moment that really stayed with me. I came home with bags from Sainsburys, plonked them on the table, and asked for help putting things away. He told me he was in deep meditation and couldnt interrupt his energy flow. I said nothing. As I unpacked on my own, I thought to myselfI dont have a partner, Ive got a grown man whos decided not to take any responsibility for himself.
Recently, I asked him to look for any sort of job. He replied he wouldnt submit again to something that made him ill, just to pay bills. That my role was to understand and support him as an enlightened partner. I told him theres a difference between being supportive and single-handedly financing someone who does nothing. He sulked. Said I didnt believe in him.
Today, Im still working, footing all the bills, and wondering when exactly having a boyfriend turned into sponsoring a spiritual internship in my own flat. Im not sure if Im his partner or his spiritual patron. All I really know is Im exhausted, and no matter how much incense I burn, the bills wont pay themselves.
What am I supposed to do?
