Im still haunted by the thought that I rushed into divorce far too quickly. Wise men turn their lovers into a celebration; I turned mine into a wife.
My mood vanished the moment I parked my car and stepped inside our flat in London. Everything was exactly as Id expect: slippers waiting by the door, the comforting aroma of dinner, everything spotless, fresh flowers in the vase.
I didnt feel anything. My wife was, of course, at home what else is she to do all day, now that shes older? She bakes pies and knits. Well, perhaps not socks, really, but thats the gist.
Helen came out to greet me, the same gentle smile as always:
Tired, darling? I made some pies cabbage, apple, just as you like
She fell silent under my heavy gaze. She wore comfortable trousers and a homely top, her hair tied back in a scarf, as she always did when in the kitchen. It was just her habit, having worked as a chef all her life. Her eyes had a faint line of colour, and her lips shone with gloss, which struck me as garish now. Why paint your age?
Perhaps I shouldnt have been so blunt, but I blurted it out:
Makeup at your age? Its pointless! It doesnt suit you.
Helens lips trembled, but she didnt respond, nor did she set the table for me. Which, to be honest, was a relief. Tea was waiting, pies under a towel I managed just fine on my own.
After my shower and dinner, the affection returned, as did the memories from earlier. Sitting in my favourite old armchair, wrapped in a soft dressing gown, I pretended to read. I thought of how that new colleague said,
Youre quite the charming man and interesting, too.
Im 56 and head up the legal department in a large firm. Theres a young graduate on my team and three women all over forty. Another colleague had just left for maternity leave, so in came Sophie.
I was away on business when she joined, so I only met her today.
I called her into my office. The subtle perfume drifted in with her, along with an unmistakable freshness. Her delicate face framed by fair curls, confident blue eyes. Full lips and a little mole on her cheek. Surely she wasnt thirty? Id have said twenty-five, max.
Divorced, mother to an eight-year-old son. Im not quite sure why, but I thought, Well, thats good.
We chatted; I flirted a little, telling her she now had an old boss to deal with. Sophie fluttered her long lashes and insisted she didnt see me that way words that echoed, now, as I sat there.
Helen brought me a cup of chamomile, her nightly routine. I frowned; always at the wrong moment. Still, I drank it with some satisfaction. I wondered whats young, lovely Sophie doing this evening? Suddenly, my heart was stabbed by a jealousy Id nearly forgotten.
***
After work, Sophie popped into Sainsburys: a wedge of cheese, sandwich loaf, a bottle of kefir for herself. She arrived home neutral, not smiling. She hugged her son, William, more out of habit than tenderness.
Her dad was tinkering in his garden shed-workshop, her mum was making dinner. Sophie put out her shopping and immediately announced she had a headache, to be left alone. In truth, she felt low.
Ever since shed divorced Williams father, shed struggled to become someones indispensable woman. All the decent prospects turned out to be comfortably married and after a casual fling.
The last one a colleague seemed head over heels for two stormy years. Even rented her a flat, mostly for his convenience, shed realised. As soon as things got too serious, he declared it was over, she should probably leave the office too, and hed even found a job for her elsewhere. So now Sophie lived with her parents again, as did her son. Mum sympathised, dad insisted it was better for the child to have his mum around, not only grandparents.
Helen, my wife, had seen signs of my midlife crisis for years. Wed everything, except what really mattered. She feared what that might be for me, tried to soften things by cooking my favourites, staying well-kept, never prying for heartfelt talks (even if she needed them).
She tried to involve me with the grandson and our cottage, but I was bored and grumpy.
With both of us hungry for some change, my affair with Sophie flourished almost instantly. Two weeks after she joined, I invited her for lunch and gave her a lift home. We held hands; she turned towards me, cheeks flushed.
I dont want to say goodbye. Shall we drive out to my cottage? I said hoarsely. She nodded. The car shot away.
I always finished Fridays early, but Helen didn’t get a text until nine that night: Well talk tomorrow. I didnt realise Id summarised a conversation that would, frankly, be pointless. She understood that after thirty-two years, you simply cant burn with passion anymore.
Yet he was family; losing him was like losing part of herself. However much hed sulk or grumble, so long as he sat in that chair, ate dinner, breathed with her nearby, she felt anchored.
She spent a sleepless night, trying to find words that could halt the unravelling (which would now only really be hers).
At some point, she pulled out our wedding album. Young us, everything ahead. How beautiful she was! So many once dreamed of calling her theirs. Surely hed remember? She thought perhaps hed see, even just fragments, and realise not all can be thrown away.
But he didnt return until Sunday. She knew: it was truly over. In front of her stood a changed man. It was as if adrenaline had replaced his blood. No awkwardness, no shame.
He craved change, and welcomed it. Hed already mapped it out. He spoke in a tone that didnt allow for contradiction.
From now on, Helen could count herself free. Hed file for divorce tomorrow. Himself. Their son, with family, should move in with Helen. All perfectly legal. After all, the two-bedroom flat their sons family occupied was in his name, inherited from his mother.
Theyd move to the three-bedroom with Helen; it wouldnt worsen their situation, and shed have someone to care for. The car, naturally, was his. The family cottage he retained rights to holiday there.
Helen felt wretched, but the tears came anyway, muddling her words. She begged him to reconsider, recall their life together, think of her health. That last point made him furious. He got close, hissed (almost screamed):
Stop trying to drag me into your old age!
It would be wrong to claim Sophie loved me and thats why she said yes to my proposal on our first night at the cottage.
The status of being a wife appealed to her, and she especially relished that her lover had left another woman for her.
She was tired of living in a house run by her strict father. She wanted security and stability. I could give her that. Not the worst option, she admitted.
Despite being nearly sixty, I wasnt grandfatherly. Fit, smart, easy company, successful, generous in bed, and delighted in her. Life with me meant no rented flats, no pennilessness, no stealing. All positives. Well, except for my age.
After a year, Sophie began feeling more and more disappointed. She still felt like a young woman, wanted excitement concerts, water parks, sunbathing in a daring swimsuit, girls nights. She juggled everything easily, including family life, even with William living with her now.
But I was slowing down. At work, I was decisive, sharp; at home, she saw only my weariness and desire for peace and respect for my routines. Socialising, theatre, even beach trips, all permitted if in strict moderation.
Sex wasnt refused, but immediately after straight to sleep, sometimes even before nine.
Then there was my stomach, which couldn’t cope with anything fatty, processed meats, ready meals. Helen had spoiled me, I suppose. I even felt nostalgic, sometimes, for her steamed fish. Sophie cooked for William and couldnt understand how pork chops might give me a stomach ache.
She didnt keep track of my necessary pills; a grown man should know what to take, and when. Somehow, more and more of her life didnt involve me.
She spent her free time with William, his interests always considered, and connected with her friends. Oddly enough, my age seemed to spur her to live faster.
We stopped working together soon after. Management decided it was inappropriate and Sophie moved to a notarys office. She actually felt relief not seeing her husband all day he reminded her too much of her father.
What she felt for me was respect. Was that enough for happiness?
Approaching my sixtieth birthday, she wanted a proper bash, a grand party. But I booked a table at my favourite small restaurant somewhere familiar, somewhere Id always felt sanctuary. I was, perhaps, a little bored, but at my age, thats normal, isnt it? Sophie didnt seem bothered.
My colleagues came to honour me. Former friends, couples wed known with Helen it was awkward to invite any of them now. Family was distant, and since marrying young Sophie, they hadnt understood. My own grown son cut me off. But surely a man has a right to decide his own path? Still, remarriage hadnt turned out quite as Id pictured.
The first year with Sophie had been a honeymoon. I enjoyed taking her out, indulging her in treats (within reason), encouraging her fitness, her friendships, her concerts, even wild films. I made her and William joint owners of my flat, and after a while, gave her half my share of the house. She then persuaded Helen for her own half, threatening to sell to just anyone if not. With my money, of course, she got the whole thing. Argued it was so good for William, being by a river and woods.
All summer, Sophies parents and William took over the cottage. And in truth, it worked out better Id married for love, not to raise someone elses loud child, and William was boisterous.
Helen and the old family were hurt. With proceeds from the sale of the three-bedroom, they split up; my son and his family found a two-bedroom, and Helen ended up in a studio. I didnt keep track of how theyre getting on.
Now sixty. So many wishing me health, happiness, love. Yet, I dont feel alive. Each year, dissatisfaction grows.
I did love my young wife; I just couldnt keep up. She was playful yet untameable. She laughed and lived as she pleased. She never overstepped, I could tell, yet it irked me.
If only I could have transplanted Helens soul into Sophie! So shed bring tea to my chair each evening, tuck me in if I dozed off. Id have enjoyed slow walks with her, whispered in the kitchen at night, but Sophie couldnt bear my long-winded talks, and now seemed bored in bed. It frustrated me, made things worse.
I regretted rushing the divorce. Wise men turn lovers into celebrations; I turned mine into a wife.
With her temperament, Sophie would prance around for a decade. But at forty, shed still be so much younger than me. The gap would only widen. If I was lucky, Id go quickly; if not
These unbirthday thoughts hammered in my head. I looked for Sophie; she was among the dancers, sparkling eyes, beautiful. Waking up with her by my side was its own happiness. But I wanted to breathe, to air out my sadness, slipped out of the restaurant.
Colleagues followed; I found myself overcome by agitation. I dashed to a waiting taxi, urging the driver to go anywhere.
I needed to be somewhere I mattered, where my time, my presence had value, and I could relax and not fear being seen as weak or, heavens, old.
I rang my son, almost begging, for Helens new address. He responded gruffly, but I insisted this mattered, it was nearly life and death. I let slip it was my birthday, and he softened just a bit, warned me Helen might not be alone. No man just a friend.
Mum says they went to school together. The names silly Something like Bunworthy.
Bunworth, I corrected, a stab of jealousy rising. Yes, hed loved her once. Back then, shed attracted many. Beautiful, bold. She was going to marry Bunworth, but I won her. So long ago, but strangely, those days felt more real than life with Sophie.
My son asked,
But why, Dad?
I shivered at the forgotten term, and realised I missed them all deeply. I answered honestly,
I dont know, son.
He gave me the address. The driver stopped at my request. I didnt want witnesses for speaking to Helen. I checked the time almost nine, but she always stayed up late, a night owl, for me, who was a lark.
I buzzed at the intercom.
But it wasnt Helen who answered. A muffled male voice. Said Helen was busy.
Whats wrong? Is she alright? I asked anxiously.
The voice demanded my name.
Im her husband, actually! And you must be Mr Bunworth, I all but shouted.
Mr Bunworth coolly corrected me husband was now past tense, and Id no right to be bothering Helen. He didnt bother explaining that she was in the bath.
What is it then old love never rusts? I asked with jealous sarcasm, bracing for a long spat with Bunworth. But he replied shortly,
No, old love turns to silver.
The door stayed firmly shut.







